Well, you just don’t get it until you get it. And then, when you do, it’s like waking up from a hangover and, as the cobwebs clear, wondering “where the hell have I been?” Where have I been? Well literally I’ve been in Los Angeles for the past couple of weeks, after returning from a […]Read more "You get it when you get it."
I went on a date the other night that broke my heart a little. Though perfectly “fine”, nothing dramatic, no sparks, nothing unusual, there was no attraction (on my part), totally different lifestyles, and no reason, that I could see, to go out again. I found myself staring at the jeweled cufflink peaking out from […]Read more "Step by Step"
Shortly after starting this blog, which centers around dating, I stopped caring about dating. Ha! Like all of the sudden I just didn’t care about figuring it out and making it happen. Any of it. Including the “you’re 38, are you going to have kids or not?” part. I really don’t know why, but the […]Read more "The Irony of Letting Go. "
I fell off of the dating and writing wagons a few weeks ago, in part due to my schedule and in part because after months of doing, I just wanted to be. And in that time, as I’ve pulled away from too much thinking, analyzing, and planning, things have, as they do, just started to […]Read more "Break"
So, here’s the thing about going on a bunch of dates with guys who you meet online and may or may not really be interested in for the long run. It’s exhausting! It was fun for a minute; getting dressed up, trying new places, meeting new people, and then, very quickly, it became a total […]Read more "Well, that was fun?"
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I ran from online dating for as long as possible, but eventually realized it was going to have to be part of my meeting people repertoire because…it just was. Remember when you used to go out to a coffee shop or a bar and people would look around and interact and possibly make eye contact […]Read more "To Swipe. Or Not To Swipe."
I recently took a class that just happened to be held at the Museum of Broken Relationships, in Hollywood. I’d heard the name of this museum and seen some reference to it, but hadn’t been there and didn’t know what to expect. It was fantastic and worth a trip if ever you’re able. Filled with […]Read more "Objects that Bind"
The grass is always greener! I am currently working with a mostly-happily married bunch of coworkers who have become intrigued with my single hood and dating life, which frequently leads to conversations that go something like this- “I’ve been on OKCupid for four months and still haven’t gotten through their entire list of questions.” “Once […]Read more "The Grass is Greener…"
re·flec·tion rəˈflekSH(ə)n/ noun 1. the throwing back by a body or surface of light, heat, or sound without absorbing it. 2. serious thought or consideration A few months into my most recent online dating foray, it has become clear that, in the search for love, most of us simply attract mirrors, over and over and […]Read more "Mirrors"